A few recent blog posts introduced intuitive Tool #2: centering your awareness right behind your eyes – or getting into the driver's seat of your body.
The first post on this tool noted that "taking control of what you’re paying attention to – and placing your attention on yourself, from yourself – are tremendously empowering acts."
You learned how to do that in the following post. Not that it's hard. In fact, the key to using any intuitive tool is to focus on it but without a sense of trying or a feeling of effort.
Next up was a post on playing with this centered awareness. Specifically, that blog post taught you how to start using your own attention to heal yourself.
What's so great about being in the center of your head, or your sixth chakra, rather than other energy centers or chakras? That's the question asked and answered by the next post about Tool #2. Essentially, this energy center offers you certainty, clarity, and neutrality. The other major energy centers have great qualities too, and the post quickly summarizes them. (For instance, ever had a gut feeling, or just knew something off the top of your head?)
So here we are in the last post about this tool, which is to say that taking time each day or so to sit down, close your eyes, gather up your awareness, and start placing it on your personal energy space is an effective, healing, refreshing style of meditation.
Meditation is your spiritual happy hour – but start with a hard-won, happy five minutes.
When you sit down, close your eyes, and get into the center of your head, you start to clear rather than override energy. It’s not the only way to do that. You might go for a walk on the beach, treat yourself to a spa treatment, get on your Harley, or take a vacation, and lo and behold – you’re refreshed. You’ve taken the charge of other people’s energy out of your space and out of your head. You feel pretty clear and comfortable with yourself. You find you can actually think for more than a couple of minutes.
But then you get back to your life. The cleared-out feeling generally doesn’t last long even if you’re used to handling lots of energy demand. The competition for your attention starts up pretty quick. Your attention fires off toward different points. You feel overloaded. Where the heck did you go?
So as a daily coping strategy, you may start to override this load on your space by leaving the body energetically. Hanging out somewhere above your head while working. And afterward, spacing out. Where’s the beer?
The alternative – simply retaking your attention – is more effective in the long term.
If you’ve never started to meditate before, that’s fine. If you have meditated but in a different way, that’s fine too. As you take time for the next week or so to bring your energy into the center of your head, you’ll probably both be drawn to it and fight it.
That’s why it makes sense to just start to do it for five minutes once a day. More often, if you feel like it, is great! But don’t feel inadequate or guilty if you’re taking only five minutes a day, as you get used to this tool. Gradually build up to more time and keep adding the easy tools that the next blog posts will outline. But do give yourself a break about the process if it feels new to you as you get used to sitting in stillness and (in your mind's eye, or your imagination) looking around.
So, you decide to simply sit down somewhere and retake your attention. Feet on the floor, sitting up straight, you bring your awareness into the center of your head.
Hang on, and find a bit of amusement (Tool #1) because all those people out there who have your attention and who want to maintain it will then decide to call you, email you, and knock on your door. They don’t want you to take back your attention. I guess that means you’re doing something pretty powerful.
Give yourself permission for these five or ten or more minutes to ignore them.
Or once you plan to sit down on that couch without the TV or laptop on, you’re suddenly compelled to wash the dishes, pining for a clean and empty sink as you have never done before. Or you have an uncharacteristic longing to clean out the garage.
Give yourself an A. All this means that you are doing a great job of reasserting control of your own energy space. It means that you’re learning to manage your attention – that is, you’re learning to manage all the competition for your attention.
It’s OK to bounce around.
Now you’ve made it to a chair, you’ve closed your eyes, and your awareness is snugly behind your eyes, or at least somewhere close. And you start to hit all the things in your space vying for your attention.
Little bombs, small lit-up or loud or otherwise insistent pockets scattered throughout your space, start to go off. Things you’ve resisted. Things you’re competing with. Worries. Images. Memories. Concerns. Past, present, future. In short, various packets of charged energy.
Or you might notice a lot of thoughts running through your head, not unlike the translation running under the images in a foreign film. Suddenly you’re possessed by the need to analyze these thoughts. To think. To solve problems. To make lists.
All of this is excellent. It’s to be expected. It’s part of the process of getting back into the thicket that at the moment is your own energy field. Don’t fight any of it. Find a speck of attitude in which this deluge is funny. Wow, you must really be important if all this energy has to load up in your space.
Know that every time you noticed one of these energy packets, one of these thoughts, one of these images, you cleared some of the energy from it. If you heard the thought, if you saw the image, you de-energized it more. Success. Shortly, you’ll learn a couple of other tools to de-energize these intruding packets of energy.
It will get easier and go faster. The longer you sit there, the more times you sit there, it will get easier for you to find your own energy space. Even amid the various demands, you’ll find yourself enjoying the respite. Your body will relax. Your head will start to clear out. Your stress will decrease. You’ll feel more here.
Avoiding the nap syndrome.
Here’s another experience you’ll find as you close your eyes to get into the center of your head: the nap syndrome. You will hit some stuck pain in your energy field and nod off. You will “go unconscious.”
Here’s a simple technique to avoid nodding off. Once you’ve closed your eyes and brought your energy into the center of your head, bring your attention to your breath.
For a moment or two, watch your breath coming in and out of your nose. Don’t regulate it. Just observe it as it enters and exits the body. If you feel that you’re nodding off, exhale just a couple of seconds longer than you naturally would. Then relax and let the inhale come as it will.
What in your universe could use your attention?
Now, do one last thing after you stop reading. Give yourself one last gift for digesting all this information. Consider what in your personal universe could use some attention from you.
-- Be right in the center of your head. You’ve done it two or three or more times now so it’s starting to be more familiar. Find that space behind your eyes and let your awareness settle in there.
-- No problems to solve. No demands to answer. The thoughts pass by. You’re giving yourself a moment to just be, with your attention behind your eyes.
-- From this space, ask the question, What in my personal universe could use some of my attention right at this moment? It could be a person, place, or thing. It could be in the past or the future.
-- If you get an answer right out in front of you, gently place your attention on that answer. What part of your universe needs your attention? The answer may not make sense. Just accept it. Your job. Your partner. Your diet. Your elbow. The high school senior prom, whenever it was held. Place your attention right on that. Just look at that thing in your mind’s eye.
-- After a minute or two, release your attention from that concept, that picture.
-- Pat yourself on the back. Open your eyes.
-- Touch your face. Yawn and stretch. This takes you out of the light trance you just got into.
Trust this knowledge: With the power of your tangible, focused attention, you just energetically created a change in your world. Your attention released something stuck; it created a healing.
copyright © 2013 Lisa Bernstein